We all go through stages in our entrepreneurial adventures where it seems everyone else has the answers and we are still in the dark ready to ransom our kingdom for a match. The truth is no one has all the answers and many don’t know what questions to ask!
When you’re struggling to find your voice or even just your confidence, it’s easy to see others as being so much more advanced than you are but, truthfully, we’re all students, all the time. Some of us are attending the school of hard knocks, others have earned scholarships at the school of the starry-eyed but ill-informed and many of us are self-taught and home-schooled.
There are so many sources of information out there. Who do you turn to? How do you know if they are the right people to help you? How do you make the best use of what they know that you don’t?
When I faced this dilemma for the first time, I planned an imaginary meeting with the people I most respected in my industry. I thought deeply about what to ask and why I wanted to know more about that. I pictured them giving me their best advice which I weighed carefully and implemented. I sat in their chairs and pretended I thought just like they did, knew what they knew, felt what they felt.
But then I took that fantasy a step further. I looked them up. I wrote and called asking for an hour of their time. I told them why I wanted to meet with them and didn’t pretend to be more than who I was — simply a person who was interested in learning from the best.
Guess what happened? They took my calls. They met with me. They gave me their best advice and (bonus) a good talking to and/or a swift kick in the ass when I needed it. Not one of them tried to talk me out of my big ideas.
Better yet. I listened to them. Where it made sense, I changed my behaviour or my approach without compromising myself. Things seemed instantly better in so many ways. I learned and progressed much faster than if I’d tried to go it alone.
You probably have people you look up to too. What if you had an hour to spend with them? What would you ask? How would you want them to help you? More importantly, why haven’t you contacted them yet? (And if you have, tell us what happened!)